Bondage - An introduction to the world of bondage

Bondage - An introduction to the world of bondage

Bondage - An introduction to the world of bondage


Many long for a captivating love life. In search of new stimuli, the unknown and maybe even the slightly wicked, bondage is on the sexual wish list of many. The special attraction and the sizzling eroticism that can be caused by a rope alone hardly leaves any lap unmoved.

In a conversation with an insider you will gain deep insights into the world of bondage. She will tell you what to expect and what to look out for when you embark on this adventure. This article will help you to explore your personal inclinations, to throw any last doubts overboard and to fuel your anticipation into the immeasurable.

Table of Content

1. What the F♥ck is bondage? - A little introduction

2. Bondage - English - The most important terms of the scene

3. From bondage to bondage - It's all about technique

4. Bondage ropes, satin ribbons and co.

5. Correctly delivered - What you have to consider when bondage

6. Experts Interview

7. Find the right bondage partner

8. Tie me up baby!

9. Professionally tied up

10. Debutant in the bondage community

11. Conclusion


What the F♥ck is bondage? - A little introduction

The term bondage comes from the English and means servitude or complete subjugation. Bondage in the erotic sense is about the restriction of the freedom of movement of one part and the technical execution of the bondage of the other. It is about lust and desire, the feeling of a tight hemp rope on your skin, the power that flows through you when you fix your partner. Bondage goes far beyond the usual in/out game.


Between tying a tie on the bedpost and a bondage session there are worlds apart. Of course, your lust increases immensely when you lie so defenseless and fixated in front of your partner that he can do all kinds of things with you without you being able to do anything about it. Without any doubt you are really hot, when your lover or sweetheart lies before you like a sacrificial lamb full of expectation. However, bondage is another dimension of being tied up and captivated.


A bondage session is a long planned and well prepared event. It requires the right partner and certain previous knowledge.


Your playmate for bondage does not necessarily have to be your usual object of lust or even spouse. However, you must choose a person you trust unconditionally. Even if you are the submissive part who can be tied up, this does not mean that you do not have to do your homework. Bondage is a hot and dangerous game.


Bondage - English - The most important terms of the scene

Bondage - The most important terms of the scene

Bondage - The most important terms of the scene


Before you learn how to tie each other up like a package, you will be introduced to the very own language of the bondage scene. What you don't need in a bondage adventure are misunderstandings!

Bondage is usually a variation of the BDSM. The abbreviation for "Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism" translates as "Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism". None of these can be separated in individual drawers. The practices of BDSM can be combined excellently.


  1. One of the first things you have to deal with is SSC - Safe, Sane & Consensual. This is the principle of the BDSM scene and applies to all practices. It should protect you and your potential partner from physical, but also mental abuse. The motto can be translated into German as "Safe, with a clear mind and in mutual agreement". The security aspect is also ensured here by using a safeword. You use this previously agreed word if it is too much for one of you. "Ouch", "stop" or "halt" are not good safewords. With bondage games it can also be quite harder, something like that easily slips out. Think of something more unusual, like "roast crust" or "bouquet", something that is completely out of context.
  2. In bondage games, as we know, there are two roles - the captive and the tied up. But this does not necessarily have anything to do with dominance and submission. However, if it goes in that direction, it's up to you whether you feel more comfortable as Dom or Sub. The Dom, also known as Top or Rigger, is the dominating bondage artist. The dominant part is therefore the sub or bottom. But you don't have to commit yourself to one role for life - you can also switch depending on your mood.
  3. If someone asks you about your Kink, then nothing else is meant than your sexual preference. Of course this does not have to be explicitly limited to the BDSM scene or bondage. It is only about what really turns you on.
  4. If the term vanilla comes to your ears, then it is not a person whose Kink is Sploshing with vanilla ice cream. Rather it is about people who have nothing to do with the BDSM scene, i.e. who don't share the preferences of bondage, corporal punishment or sadomasochism.

Sploshing is the fetish of bringing food into the sex life. This does not mean that Sploshing lovers have intercourse with ice cream and pretzel sticks. It is about the feeling of being covered by a delicate food and feeling its properties on the skin.


So - now the terminology has been clarified, let's get down to practice!

From bondage to bondage - It's all about technique

As a bondage novice, you should first of all have yourself professionally tied up. Even if your preference is more in the direction of putting others in chains, this experience will give you a feeling for bondage. Bondage is a fun game, where the climax in the form of an orgasm is not the main focus.

Through targeted lacing your lust will be increased immeasurably, no matter if you are tied up or bondaged. In order to fully enjoy your arousal, you must master the safety rules. Unwanted nerve contusions or abrasions are more likely to turn you off than on.


Extra tip for you

Is this still bondage or are we doing yoga? Some positions have names that suggest it, like the bunny position. Here the arms are tied over the head on the back - so previous stretching is definitely recommended.


Take a close look at your restraint materials. You should know them well and trust them - the same applies to your partner. Not only should you know how to use the different materials, but you should also keep an eye on how you can best and quickly release them.


No matter how experienced you or your bondage partner are, there can always be a psychological crisis. The active part has to react quickly in a critical situation, free the passive part and then calm it down with a lot of empathy.


You will soon discover that the choice of bondage gear knows no or at least hardly any limits. Tie and knot what the household has to offer: Sheets, ties, stockings - there are no limits to your imagination for practice and also in the practiced practice.

However, you should keep your hands off clotheslines and adhesive tape. Elastic and adhesive materials pose too great a danger. Also pay attention to possible allergies! You don't want the session to end really ugly.


Bondage ropes, satin ribbons and co.

Bondage ropes, satin ribbons and Co.

Bondage ropes, satin ribbons and Co.


No matter if you want to try a little bondage game for beginners or if you are looking for the ultimate bondage adventure, the bondage material has to be chosen with care.


Quality is a key word here. Cheap gifts and plush handcuffs are no more than funny decoration, but they are completely unsuitable for bondage games.


Anyone who has ever tried to unknot a knotted nylon stocking will know: ...the only way to loosen them is with scissors. So if you don't want to throw away the expensive sexy hold-up stockings after your adventure, better look for another bondage instrument or switch to the cheaper version.


With these bondage tools you are on the safe side:

  1. padded handcuffs, such as leather cuffs
  2. Satin ribbons
  3. Tie or tie
  4. Cotton or silk rope
  5. for experts and experienced bondage artists: braided nylon rope
  6. custom-fit hand and foot cuffs
  7. Straitjacket and straps

However, you should keep your hands off the following items:

  1. Cable tie
  2. Elastic bands
  3. Anything that does not feel good on your skin
  4. sharp-edged or rubbing materials
  5. Parcel string
  6. clothesline
  7. Plastic chains

With sewing thread instead of stable rope you can exhaust the bondage game on a psychological level. The bound person is thus fixed with all senses. You can think of great punishments if your victim doesn't keep still and the thread breaks...


Especially with ropes you will find that you develop your preferences here as well. How long may the good piece be - that is, the rope? Do you like it smooth or rough? Do you like cotton or hemp? Do you choose twisted or braided?


It's up to you - in the truest sense of the word! Deal with the properties and characteristics of your bondage rope. You can also get advice in good shops or ask the community if you are not sure.


Good bondage ropes are between five and twelve millimeters thick. Ropes that are too thick cannot be knotted reasonably tight. If the rope is too thin, it cuts quickly.

The length doesn't matter? It does here. Two to three meter long ropes are often enough for smaller bondage, but big productions sometimes need up to 50 meters of bondage rope.


Extra tip for you

Insiders know that hollow ropes cling better to the body. They are also called ropes without soul.


If you're looking for a classic punishment game, then torture bondage is the game for you. The punishment here does not necessarily have to be spanking - the very popular ass spanking. The punishment starts with fixing the sub as uncomfortable or even painful as possible. This is also called bondage sex, although sexual intercourse does not necessarily have to take place during torture bondage.


The last one in the bunch is really nice to look at and serves aesthetic purposes. In ornamental bondage it's not about fixation, but the bondage emphasizes and highlights certain parts of the body. The nodal points have a very stimulating effect on the bondaged person, if they are in the right places.


Before you go into an hour-long bondage session, you should go to the toilet once more. Once you are tied up like a roast, you won't be able to enjoy this relief so quickly.


Correctly delivered - What you have to consider when bondage

The attraction of bondage games lies in the subjugation. But despite the power difference between top and bottom, it is always about respect, esteem and devotion. No matter if you only want to use your hands or if your whole body is fixed, the passive part is mercilessly at the mercy of its active play.

So that the whole thing doesn't go in an unpleasant, maybe even dangerous direction, Nina gives you some insider tips and safety rules.


Experts Interview

Nina has been in the scene for several years. She tells you about captivating encounters, boring "hanging out" and people full of empathy, respect and esteem. Regularly she lets herself be tied up and chats a little from the bondage sewing box:

"Nice of you to let us give you a few holes. What does it really matter now? What's the first thing you tell every bondage novice?"

"I'd love to. The beginning is clearly three letters: S-S-C. Everything is based on this! The principle is the Golden Rule, the unwritten law in the scene. If you don't follow it, you're out of place here.


"So what exactly do you have to watch out for?

"SSC stands for Safe, Sane & Consensual. In plain language this means on the one hand that each of the parties involved has to give his or her unambiguous consent to what is happening and that every wish may and even has to be communicated. That makes it somehow hornier if your counterpart reveals what really gets him hot."


"Is that the only rule in bondage?"

"No - drugs and alcohol are also an absolute no-go. This only clouds your senses and in the end you can't estimate what you are doing with your opponent. Or the other way round: You don't notice what is happening to you. That would be fatal!


But just between us, you don't start with bondage and then not feel anything.


"Yes, that makes sense and safety first. On the subject of safety, what's your safe word?

"I don't have a safe word. I use the traffic light code. I would advise anyone to do the same. It's a common practice in the whole BDSM scene. Just like the lighting system, the different colors control the traffic. Some even include the color blue. So:


Red - "Abort immediately!"


Yellow - "You are moving close to my border - beware!"


Green... It's okay. Keep going.


Blue. Give me more.


Some people work on a scale of 1 to 10. But that's too Domina for me.


"Can it really be that dangerous? I mean, you have to expect a few bruises, don't you?

"When you're tied up, you have to be careful not to cut off the circulation. That's why you shouldn't use elastic materials. Neck, blood vessels and tendons are also taboo.


Never leave the bound person alone and always have the scissors at hand! A panic attack is not to be trifled with either...


"Has anything ever gone wrong with you?"

"Nothing like that, no. I really needed to go to the privy in the middle of a session. But I didn't want to be cut open either, because then the work would have been gone. So I was kindly carried to the toilet."


"Thank you for your openness and for sharing your experiences with us!"


Find the right bondage partner

Find the right bondage partner

Find the right bondage partner


To erotic bondage always (at least) two belong. If you want to venture into the world of bondage, you need the right partner. Maybe you even want to convince your loved one of your bondage fantasies. There is more than one way to find the right bondage partner. The main thing is that you are honest with yourself and your partner at all times. Your intentions should always be clearly stated so that you can be sure that you will both enjoy your lustful journey.

Tie me up baby! Bondage with your honey


The first step in living out your sexual fantasies with your loved one is to talk about them. Of course, this is easier said than done. The best thing is to take it very slowly and carefully - from behind through the breast into the eye, as they say. How about a movie night together, where bondage is the theme?

Or you could talk about an article you read by chance or report that you heard about a new erotic bestseller and ask your darling for his opinion? You know your partner best and know how to approach the topic.

Besides the well-known Shades of Grey there are many more movies that (better) deal with bondage.

Here is our top list:

"Sade" by Benoit Jacquo

"Quills - Power of Obsession" by Philip Kaufman (with Hollywood star cast)

"The fruits of passion" by Shūji Terayama (with Klaus Kinski)

"Obsession - Deadly Games" by Simon Rumley, Sean Hogan, Andrew Parkinson (horror movie)

"Bound - Love. Honor. Obedience" by Ate de Jong


Avoid having a "surprise" ready when you go into the bedroom. Being tied up or even tying someone up is one thing you have to prepare for emotionally. So give your counterpart time to deal with the topic appropriately.


It is especially nice when you do research together. Exchange what you know about it, what you imagine it to be and which questions are interesting for you. It is also important that you do not exert pressure at any time and that your treasure has enough freedom to decide independently how he or she feels about it.


If you are both curious and ready to start, start with small steps. Many a fire brigade operation has had to unknot, untie or free lovers from their handcuffs. Don't worry about it! They've seen worse. Slowly climbing up the ladder is even more fun for the next time.


Recommendable for bondage beginners is a common course, in which you get shown one or the other technique. These are very popular and rare. An online research and the bondage community will help you to find the right course.

On the web you can find many half-truths on the subject. With the Bondage Handbook by Matthias Grimme you get a standard work that informs beginners and advanced players alike with competence, wit and experience.


Professionally laced

Professionally laced

Professionally tied up

You are single or your partner does not share your interest in bondage games? That's no problem at all, because the offer for studios, events, fairs and regulars' tables is quite big. If not in your city, you will surely find the perfect offer for you in the next bigger one. In the scene communication is the ultimate when it comes to your wishes and expectations.

Nothing goes fast between the door and the fishing rod. You and your lust are in the focus, because no matter if a professional bondage rigger or the organized regulars' table, all act according to the principles of the BDSM scene and build on mutual respect and acceptance. Use the experience of the others to explore your own lust.


Debutant in the bondage community

In the BDSM scene, everyone is open with their inclinations. As a newcomer you are welcome and experienced bondage practitioners are there to help you with words and deeds. An exchange is beneficial for both the newcomers and the old-established. You can learn something and the experienced bondage pro has fresh meat to shape. Numerous bondage enthusiasts and bondage artists are waiting to welcome new candidates into the circles of the bondage community.

Even if you already have experience, that doesn't make you less desirable! Everyone who is like-minded will be welcome. In the dazzling world of fetish everything is possible and no one will judge you and your desires. In the same way you should move free of prejudices in your new circles. If you don't like the same thing, that's perfectly okay. Next time you will have more luck.


Conclusion

As a bondage enthusiast, all doors are open for you to explore yourself and your desires. You will meet many like-minded or similarly enthusiastic people. The tolerance and openness in the BDSM scene will facilitate your entry into the world of bondage, knots and chastisement.

As long as you follow the rules and treat your counterpart with respect, you will experience the sharpest adventures and learn a new definition of satisfaction. Always be Safe, Sane and Consensual. That way the captivating eroticism will start in an optimal way for you.



Published Date: 27th Jul 2020

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