Masturbating together - this is how it works

Masturbation. What do you think of when you hear that term? Do you think of a taboo subject that should not be addressed and even less tackled? Or do you associate masturbation with positive feelings?

We want to be very open with you about this topic and want to dispel many myths about the hand and the self-procured orgasm. One thing we can say in advance: Masturbation is not only natural, but also very important with regard to certain aspects.

The single action becomes even more beautiful when you experience it with your sweetheart - we would like to give you suitable tips for this in this article as well.

Table of Content

1. How masturbation affects your relationship

2. This is how joint masturbation becomes a success

3. Further tips for joint masturbation

4. Masturbation - important for you

5. Trivia: Facts about masturbation

6. Conclusion: Joint masturbation as a must for every couple

How masturbation affects your relationship

Within a relationship you usually have less time for yourself. Therefore it is especially important that you do not leave masturbation alone. Pampering your own body and satisfying your lust can mean a kind of break from the turbulent everyday life and the stress that comes with it.

This makes you seem more relaxed and less sensitive to misunderstandings or differences of opinion. This means that you can avoid tensions among yourselves and arguments with masturbation.

You can also achieve the positive effects of masturbation together. Just masturbate together and turn it into a comfortable experience in bed, where both of you are guaranteed to climax. You don't have to take care of the other person, but rather devote yourself to your lust and can therefore let go especially well.

If you masturbate together, inhibitions can fall. This paves the way for new and exciting experiences in bed, which otherwise might not have been possible for you.

Bridging distances by masturbating together

You live in a long-distance relationship and cannot see your sweetheart too often? Then you certainly don't have sex with each other as often as you would like to. Masturbating together is an exciting alternative that will weld you together. Masturbating together via these channels works especially well:

1. Sexting
2. on the phone
3. via video calls or video chats

Whichever option you choose, it is important that you overcome shyness and inhibitions. Only then is it possible to express your fantasies on the phone or smartphone, give orders to your partner, give instructions and make it even more sparkling with Dirty Talk. Feel your way slowly to what you both enjoy on the phone and surprise yourself with a sexy call even in the middle of the night.

Our tip for you

Partner tools that can be controlled via app have long been available for long-distance relationships. These help you to masturbate together and give you erotic surprises in unexpected moments and you feel close to each other despite the distance. For example, switch on your partner's vibrator during your erotic phone call without warning - she will thank you for it!

This is how joint masturbation becomes a success

Before masturbating together for the first time, you will surely ask yourself what you can do to make it an unforgettable experience. Joint sexual satisfaction can indeed be a very nice foreplay, or it can serve as a substitute for the usual sex.

But one thing is certain: This kind of masturbation brings variety to your love games, is connected with a lot of thrills and makes sure that you both get to know each other better. You can see exactly what your partner likes about masturbation and you can draw important experiences for your next lovemaking session. In order to make the experience itself a complete success, we would like to give you some tips:

Put on hot music!

With some erotic music (for example love songs or southern beats) you can create the right atmosphere for your mutual masturbation. With the help of the music you will get in the mood and consciously separate the events from your everyday life - ideal so that you both feel better.

Furthermore, the music bridges embarrassing silence during the joint solo action when you are rather silent and shy. Because you adapt to the rhythm of the songs, the excitement is quickly increased.

Make eye contact!

Whether you are just about to orgasm or are aroused by the sight of your masturbating treasure - eye contact is especially important in the joint solo action. After all, you masturbate together to be close to each other and to get even closer.

The eye contact during your arousal will continue to heat you up, I promise. You will surely especially like it that your sweetheart gets wet or very hard at the sight of your erotic activity. Direct, intensive eye contact stands for desire, which also heats up the mood. Perhaps you will be so strongly aroused by this that you will take another round after the climax?

Let Dirty Talk speak for you

The be-all and end-all of good masturbation in pairs is that you stimulate each other. You can do this very well with the help of Dirty Talk. Use phrases like "I love to see your bulging bottom like that" or "Your penis looks so hard" to express your lust. Both men and women like to feel desired and to have it breathed into their ears verbally.

The fact that your partner is aroused by the sight of you is a very stimulating feeling for you. Tell yourself what exactly you are doing with your finger on the clitoris, vagina and penis and which stimulations you like best. Because humans respond well to acoustic and visual stimuli, your arousal will also increase immensely.

Make yourself clearly visible!

If you masturbate together, you should involve each other in the action. It is important that you can see each other well in order to maintain eye contact and to keep an eye on your body language. Surely your partner will also want to have a clear view of what is going on when you hold hands.

Our tip for you

Ideally, you should be able to look into each other's eyes while masturbating without having to strain. Spread your legs during masturbation and align the open pelvis with your partner. This open stage provides the perfect view of the action and stimulates just as well as any porn.

You can visually stimulate yourself and stimulate your imagination. For example, caress your breasts while your husband or boyfriend has his eyes on you - it will surely drive him crazy!

Include sex toys!

That sex toys can spice up the single love life and also the sex in a relationship, you are surely aware of long ago. But especially when masturbating together it will drive you out of your mind.

The intensive stimulation of the G-Spot and Co. will surely excite you so much that you will soon want to make common cause and no longer keep your hands off each other. Surely you would like to be instead of the vibrator, which spoils your wife all around.

Make it a role play!

The joint masturbation is especially good if you make a role play out of it. By slipping into new roles, you can let your inhibitions go faster and involve dirty talk or intensive eye contact more easily.

Perform your role in masturbation and stay with it. Also keep your fingers with you to create real tension - unless the role play requires something else. You are welcome to give each other orders within your roles to fully enjoy the excitement.

Further tips for joint masturbation

If you feel like visually tracking every corner of your experience, a large mirror in front of or above your bed is the right choice. You can not only see your own body well in it, but also observe your partner. It often even seems as if you are the actors in a porn movie.

Not only the mirror can sweeten the common masturbation, but also commands and prohibitions. Establish prohibitions for your wife or husband to create a wicked mood. If the order is disobeyed or the ban is not obeyed, a small punishment can be applied. With the prohibitions you not only create more excitement, but also surprise effects.

Our tip for you

Set yourself in scene for your planned duo masturbation by choosing hot lingerie. Whether patent and leather, lace or tulle - everything you like and in which you feel comfortable can create a crackling atmosphere.

Masturbation - important for you

Masturbation is nothing negative, as it is unfortunately still so often propagated by society or one's own immediate surroundings. On the contrary - through masturbation you can profit from some positive effects, which among other things also benefit your relationship.

Surely you have already noticed that masturbation has a relaxing effect on you, and that you can sleep better or deal with pressure in stressful phases of life. These are the advantages of (regular) masturbation:

Stress reduction: If you are under pressure at work, for example, a certain level of stress builds up, which can be increased by various little things and worries. Your blood pressure rises, you are irritable and feel less comfortable. In this case you should take a few minutes to satisfy your desire. An orgasm not only makes you feel more relaxed in general, but you can also forget your worries for a short time and release the pressure as if through a valve.

Encourage creativity: By masturbating regularly without visual aids such as porn you can encourage your creativity. After all, fantasy is needed to excite you when you hold hands - this fantasy also benefits your sexual intercourse in the relationship.

Our tip for you

You get to know yourself better: If you masturbate regularly, you will know exactly where your erogenous zones are and how you would like to be touched or stimulated. This sexual self-confidence also affects the sex with your partner.

You promote your health: When you masturbate you get your circulation going, increase your pain threshold and benefit from better blood circulation. Orgasm is therefore often called the source of youth.

You can sleep better:Because you are more relaxed after masturbation and stress is gone, you will fall asleep in no time.

You feel better: Because your body is better supplied with blood during sexual arousal and masturbation, tensions and other complaints can be released. You feel more comfortable, fresh and alert after the climax. Your ability to concentrate also reaches a high.

More importantly, however, masturbation is associated with better sexual self-esteem.

People who masturbate only rarely or not at all tend to be shy, reserved in bed and hardly try anything new - not to mention putting their own fantasies and lust into practice. Therefore it is even important that you discover masturbation for yourself and continue it in a relationship.

Trivia: Facts about masturbation

Whether with a finger, a vibrator or a masturbator - almost everyone performs masturbation regularly. However, most people are reluctant to admit this or simply avoid the subject. How often do you masturbate per week?

Many young women and men take the time to pamper themselves at least twice a week. So you are not alone with your desire for more! However, masturbating together is not quite as common among couples.

It is also worth knowing that masturbation can even relieve pain because the blood circulation is stimulated. Especially in the case of menstrual pain you can avoid the relief with the help of a tablet. Masturbation can also help against tension and sore muscles. So what are you waiting for?

By the way: Did you know that every third person has sex toys? Dildos and vibrators are among the top sellers of the most popular erotic toys. Having an arsenal of toys in your own bedside table can be an advantage if you are looking for varied action while masturbating alone or in pairs - so take a look at erotic stores online or on location.

Conclusion: Joint masturbation as a must for every couple

Every couple should have tried masturbating together at least once, we think. Not only because of the numerous advantages for woman or man and their body itself, but also because of the common experience.

You provide each other with so many stimulating sounds, gestures and glances that you will receive extra material for your next masturbation sessions. Moreover, it is much nicer to bring each other to orgasm with pleasure.

Try it yourself and vary the joint satisfaction with lingerie, toys and role-playing to get your love life going.